With my oldest, I wanted to complete all transitions - potty training, bottle weening, sleeping in her own bed - before her baby sister got here. They're a year and a half apart and having to do everything with two kids was not a part of my plan. I wanted to get one out of the way so that I could move on to the next.
Of the 3 milestones, I was most obsessed with potty training. My first attempt was an epic fail (see picture above). One day my mother in law said to me "do you pee and poop in the middle of your living room, with everyone watching?
Me: "um no."
Mom in law: "ok then, why would you think she'd want to."
Me: "Good point."
The next day, I ran out and bought the padded potty seat with Dora's cute little face on it. Once my baby had some privacy and was comfortable, we started making progress.
#2 was much easier. Maybe because I was a bit more relaxed. I figured that I wouldn't have an 18 year old in a diaper, so I let her do it in her own time. To my surprise, she wanted to be like her big sister and she emulated everything she did, even going on the potty. I think she may have potty trained herself...but I'm still going to take credit for it.
#3 is an entirely different story. She has no desire, whatsoever, to let anything out and into the toilet. She is very comfortable chilling in her pull up. Whenever I ask if she has to go to the bathroom, her response is usually "but mom, I pee pee in the potty 2 days ago." Umm...let's work on consistency because every two days isn't good enough. Bribery doesn't work, candy and stickers don't make a difference and the thought of wearing big girl panties has no effect on her. The other day, I let her wear Minnie panties as a reward for going on the potty that morning. I got down on my knees, look her dead in the eyes and clearly stated that she needed to let me know when she had to go on the potty. She definitely heard me loud and clear because she told me that she had to pee...but only after she'd already done it. She's always remorseful and apologetic, but her sweet "I'm sorry mommy" doesn't discount the fact that I had to get on all fours to sop up a very large puddle of urine.
I was hoping that by now, diapers and pull ups would no longer be on my shopping list. No such luck.
For my first two girls, it was all about Pampers. There was no other option. For #3 it was as well, until I was ready to transition her. After two and a half years, we're using the cheap brand. Two can play this game. If she wants to stay in training pants, I'm going to have to make her uncomfortable in cheap no frills training pants. I was sure she'd want to get out of them quickly because they don't absorb the way good ole Pampers does. Nope. Now she's just more vocal about it. "Mommy, I pee pee, I need you to change me please." If you're old enough to put together that sentence, then you're old enough to sit yourself on the potty and use it.
With all that, I do feel guilty about my strategy, so I thrown up my hands and have come to terms with the fact that it's going to happen when it happens. A friend recently suggested that I try Pampers Baby Dry. I had never had to purchase diapers past size 3, since my first 2 trained so early. I tried these and my first thought was "darnit, she's never going to want to go in the potty." Pampers kept her dry during the day and throughout the night.
Although, my girl and I love the long lasting effects of, I'm really hoping that I don't have to get to a size 5 or 6, but if I do I know what I can count on.